I’ve unfortunately read about the various ways in which the bullycidal have ended their lives. When we get the awful news of a child’s suicide it causes us to stare back in shock. We become heartbroken to consider the conviction it takes to make such a fatal choice. We, as well as the bullies, are forced to look back on a short life and recognize the potential of another unique child lost. Every story of the fallen leaves us looking back at sweet pictures and hearing raw memories about how “they just wanted to be a kid.”
Yet on the flipside, it is unbelievably frustrating how the specific behaviors reported of bullies are repetitive. There is nothing unique about their petty push for power. Bullies are only “personal” in that they obviously have personal problems they wish to project onto others. How do they do it? Someone takes the reigns and spends an unreasonable effort to get others involved. Then they arbitrarily single someone out because…
…well, no reason is a good reason. The sick game of constant harassment includes stereotypical bully behavior such as physical abuse and verbal/emotional trauma. What could possibly be appealing about playing out a role often portrayed as villainous in films? There’s a reason why the henchman of antagonists in film are portrayed as a threat. As unapproachable. As wrong for supporting hate.
Adam, like a lot of the children discussed here, has been described as kind and intelligent. He skate boarded and listened to rock music. He unwillingly found himself in a short video that was posted online a week before his death. Poor Adam was punched in the face, surrounded by laughing cowards as he landed on the hard ground. The cowards provided the sick laugh track chose to join the crowd instead of stepping in to help up their fellow student. One profound detail in the report about this bulling incident is that he never raised his hands in response to his attacker.
Adam just wanted to be a kid.
On May 21st, 2015 the bullying crowd at Bournside School had to answer the question: How does it feel to hear that Adam was found hanging from a tree? Surely no child, no human would feel they’ve accomplished a great deed in pushing someone to suicide. Taking part in a bullying situation benefits absolutely NO ONE. We must push to continue educating our children and adults that those who participate in hate could just as easily be victimized. Specific insults and attacks from bullies are unoriginal in how clichéd they can be.
If there’s something not predictable about the element of bullying it is in how they chose their victims. Bullying is about wanting control when they want it and there’s no telling who they will target next. Feeling pressure to not be singled out, however, is never a good excuse to comply with a bully. Not when lives are on the line.
Image courtesy of cited source: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3107414/Schoolboy-hanged-days-video-punched-teenager-laugh-posted-online.html